Category: Dating

3 Untold Challenges of Teen Pregnancy for Girls

It seems like the media had changed its narrative of teen pregnancy over the past decade. Once portrayed as the ultimate mistake that an adolescent girl could make, teen pregnancy today is borderline glamorized, with reality shows and YouTube channels portraying it as almost no big deal at all.

Talking about teen pregnancy is tricky. On the one hand, we don’t want to shame or demonize those who’ve accidentally found themselves pregnant as teenagers. On the other hand, it’s important to tell the truth about just what teen pregnancy entails. To help you stay safe and make good choices, here are 3 of the untold challenges of teen pregnancy for girls. We will cover the guys in a later article.

Delayed Education

Many teen girls don’t realize just how time consuming a baby is. Television shows and movies portray motherhood as simple, but there’s a reason why so many people refer to stay-at-home moms as having “the hardest job in the world.” For this reason, many girls are unable to complete their educations due to their pregnancies, which decreases their earning potential and ability to provide for their child.

Emotional Complications

Motherhood is one of the most challenging, complicated and difficult tasks that any woman can undertake. Even adult women who are in stable relationships and financially comfortable are susceptible to things like postpartum depression and emotional issues stemming from child rearing. However, an adult woman is usually adept at coping with these challenges. For an adolescent girl whose brain is still developing, it can be downright impossible to cope with motherhood in an emotionally mature way. Even if a girl chooses to give up a baby for adoption, there can be lasting psychological issues.

Financial Woes

Most people don’t realize just how expensive a child is. Even when you remove major expenses like rent and groceries, there are so many little costs, like diapers and toys, that begin to add up. Many pregnant teen girls end up living with their parents, but the burden of these new expenses can cause strife between the expectant mother and her parents.

Parenthood is something that no person should ever take lightly, but we unfortunately live in a world where people become parents without any foresight or consideration for how it will affect their lives. If you are a teenage girl, you will do yourself a great service by taking all precautions to avoid motherhood until you are older, financially stable and ideally in a solid relationship.


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How To Get Over A Breakup and a Broken Heart

Dealing with a breakup and a broken heart is not easy. It’s normal to feel heartbroken and lost, but it’s important to give yourself time to heal. Ever heard of, “no feeling is final?” It’s TRUE. The next few weeks  of your life will feel like they’re going by so slowly and every song you hear will remind you of your ex. After a while, your life will feel normal again. Just know that everything will be fine and YOU will always find your happiness, because it really doesn’t depend on anybody else.

Below are a few healthy tips to help you with how to get over a break up and a broken heart.

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Disconnect from your ex

I know this might seem crazy and impossible, but you have to try. Unfollow/block them from your social media accounts because you will find yourself stalking their profile to see what they’ve been up to. Don’t call or text them! Even if you’ve deleted their number, there’s no doubt that you have that number memorized. If you’ve ended on bad terms and are seeking closure, the early stages of a break up may not be the right time to talk to them about it. Let your broken heart heal first.

Vent to the right people

This is the time to call your loved ones and your closest friends to vent without being judged. Try not to talk trash about the other person; focus on how you feel and remember the good times. I know it may seem easier to think of the bad times you’ve had and their bad qualities because you think you’ll hate them faster and get over them easier, but that’s not always the case. Use this time to bond with your friends for some comfort food and romcoms. Bring out those tubs of ice cream! (Just don’t over do it…one of the best tips for how to get over a breakup and broken heart is to look your best).

Do NOT find a rebound

This is not the time to start dating again. Even though the days and nights feel so lonely, you don’t need to start talking to someone to help you heal. You are vulnerable at this time. Hooking up can potentially hurt you and the other person, and worsen your broken heart. This is not a time to play with feelings just because you want to fill that empty space or get revenge.

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Take care of yourself

Taking care of yourself is crucial! It’s easy to let yourself go and not care about anything. Avoid alcohol and drugs. Reinvent and rediscover yourself by doings things you love. Spend quality time with yourself and the people you care about. Exercise to release endorphins and reduce stress. Fuel yourself by eating healthy and happily. Know that you are loved by many. Love yourself too.

Learn from the power of love

Finally accepting that the relationship is over is hard. The truth is that this will make you stronger and that this is a part of life and falling in love. It is okay to cry, but not forever. Your heart should only get stronger from here. There’s always a lesson learned from every relationship. You learn how to give your heart to someone, you learn to better communicate and when things fall apart, you will learn to stand up on your own two feet again.

Remember, how to get over a breakup depends on your attitude and the feelings you allow yourself to feel. Choose wisely!


Kristen_MarquezKristen Marquez graduated with a B.A. in Cinema & Television Arts from California State, University Northridge with an emphasis in Television Production. She is a social media coordinator by day and a content creator by night. With her great imagination, she knows she will create the next big thing whether it’s a script, a product or a simple idea that will fill people’s hearts with joy and entertainment. She blogs for a hobby and loves spending time with her golden retriever Lily.

Instagram: @lexikris
Twitter: @krisiza10

How to Handle Your First Kiss!

So you’ve never kissed a guy…but you’ve watched kissing scenes on TV and almost every movie and it looks pretty easy.

But remember, those scenes are absolutely rehearsed! Watching someone kiss doesn’t mean you know how. First kisses can be awkward but they don’t have to be.

Follow this wonderful guide to handle your FIRST KISS and make it memorable!

Step 1. Think about what kind of “FIRST” Kiss you want.

What? There’s more than one type?! YES!

There’s wet kisses, dry kisses with chapped lips (no one wants that), mouth open, a little tongue, a lot of tongue, or a nice juicy peck on the lips where you hear the sound of a smack!

You might be thinking, “Well what if I don’t want to plan it?” You don’t have to, but it’s nice to have an achievable fantasy.

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Step 2. PRACTICE!

I know this sounds silly, but use your hand and pucker up! I’m not saying hardcore make out with your hand!

You’ve kissed a baby, your parents, and maybe a picture of the guy you want to kiss. It’s the same concept, just slower and sweeter. Practice makes perfect right? Make yourself kissable and moisturized! Speaking of that…

Step 3. Make your lips soft and KISSABLE

No one wants to kiss someone with cracked lips. You want your lips to look KISSABLE. What does that even mean?? It means that you should exfoliate and moisturize with a lip balm – nothing sticky.

Dab some tea tree oil around areas on your lips where you are breaking out. (It will sting!)   Do not apply the tea tree oil directly onto your lips, only around it. Dab the oil directly on your pimple(s) around your lips.

To exfoliate your lips, you can purchase a lip scrub from any drug store. I prefer using lips scrubs from Lush. If you want to save money, you can always make your own. There are many lip scrub recipes you can find online. Most scrubs are made of sugar and other sweet ingredients.

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Step 4. Have fresh breath!

Brush your teeth beforehand!

If you can’t, have some breath mints or Listerine strips on you. Stay away from foods or drinks that will make your breath smell or make you want to burp. (Avoid coffee, onions, tuna, garlic etc.)

Step 5. COMMUNICATE – use body language!

The man you want to kiss is finally in front of you. Let’s pretend you both are silent and we’ll assume you’re both ready to lock lips. Lean in closely and stare into his eyes. Let me rephrase that: make eye contact!

I giggle whenever I hear someone say “stare deeply into their eyes” because technically you really can’t be looking at both their eyes at the same time! Anyways, look at each other and sense the vibes he’s giving off. Guys give off strong signals, and if it’s their first time, chances are you both are nervous together. At this point, you can drop hints by looking at his lips or smiling. Move closer.

Step 6. Give permission to kiss.

Sure, you can verbally consent you want a kiss, but that’s no fun. Kiss them on the cheek. That’s always really cute and that will make him want to kiss you on the lips even more! Some guys can be really shy and you might just have to initiate it, which is okay!

Step 7. Aim for the lips!

I know that sounds cheesy, but believe me, some people miss. Timing is important too: you don’t want to kiss someone while they are smiling with teeth or have their mouth open! (If you’re lucky, that will make both of you laugh and you’ll want to actually kiss from there.) So here’s what you do, lean in slowly, aim for the lips and try to get his lower lip between yours. Be confident and smooch!

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Step 8. Know your limits!

Keep it gentle and sweet. Let the pattern of kissing come out naturally and pace yourselves!

Remember, don’t feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do. Be verbal about things if you have to.

If you have any more kissing tips, comment below!


Kristen_MarquezKristen Marquez  graduated with a B.A. in Cinema & Television Arts from California State, University Northridge with an emphasis in Television Production. She is a social media coordinator by day and a content creator by night. With her great imagination, she knows she will create the next big thing whether it’s a script, a product or a simple idea that will fill people’s hearts with joy and entertainment. She blogs for a hobby and loves spending time with her golden retriever Lily.

Instagram: @lexikris
Twitter: @krisiza10