Congratulations! You’ve finally made it to the next level of your scholastic journey, or you’re already well on your way. But, how do you survive it with the least amount of drama? This may be a concern floating around in your head while you’ve better things to be concerned about. Why don’t we free up some bio-gigabytes and make your life a little easier in the process? That way you can get back to socializing and doing your homework.
You’re going to do your homework, right?
Here are four quick tips to help you along your way to avoiding drama and the consequences disrupting your chill regular flow.
TIP ONE: KNOW THYSELF!
Knowing who you are and what you’re about will help you avoid peer pressure and develop character. Stay away from the negative crowd and influences. You know what you struggle with the most, so make sure you set boundaries for yourself to prevent those from becoming a problem.
TIP TWO: RESPECT THE RULES!
Sounds like an easy decision, doesn’t it? It is! While you may object to certain rules, they really do have purpose. Remember the rules are in place to create order and for our protection. Without those, what do we have? That’s right! Drama! Following the rules will make your life so much easier.
TIP THREE: AIM FOR A GOAL!
While it’s fun to socialize with your friends, it’s best to remember you’re here for a purpose. Most people find it’s not the destination, but the journey they enjoy most. Self-satisfaction comes from accomplishment, and you have the power to start designing your life right now. Learn how to set goals and to save money to accomplish those goals if you need it. Plus, if you’re working towards a goal, you’re too busy to get sucked into the drama. Bonus! Figure out what you want and go for it!
TIP FOUR: THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!
Life is a series of decisions, but a decision is not an act. You’ve the ability to take time to think things through before you act. If it doesn’t seem like a good idea, it probably isn’t. Avoid acting on impulsive decisions! Doing crazy things with your friends might be fun, but be careful about what you choose to do. A fun night can easily get out of hand andlead to charges of disorderly conduct. No one wants to deal with legal troubles, so think twice about that crazy things people say to do.
YOU CAN DO THIS!
You’re not alone in this. Utilize your support team of friends, family and school staff if you feel overwhelmed or in trouble. Remember, stay focused, positive and a little respect goes a long way. The journey through high school makes memories for life. Make yourself some good memories, avoid trouble!
They say your teen years are the best years of your life. You are young, carefree, and have all the energy in the world. However, they forget to mention all the stress with school, hormones, crushes, and peer pressure. I, however, will say your teen years are for the most part pretty cool but only when you learn how to deal with everything going on. Stress is something we can all tackle and these five ways may help you make life a little easier.
Don’t give into pressure from others
Boys, do not pressure girls into doing anything they don’t want. ‘No’ means No and that is final. Vice versa with the boys, you do not need to prove anything to anyone and if you don’t want to do something, that is okay. Ladies, don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to because if he truly cares about you he will respect your decision.
Avoid drugs at all costs
Say no to drugs, including marijuana and prescription pills. As repetitive as this message may seem, too many of us still ignore it. It doesn’t matter if every pop and rap star smokes marijuana and the fact that it is becoming legal in many states — it alters and fogs your thinking, and often leads to other drug use. If your friends are smoking, and offer you some, just say ‘No I’m good.’ It isn’t rude to decline and if they pressure you to try it just simply say ‘I’m not into it.’ You do need to go into a rant about why it is morally wrong (they are not going to listen to you, trust me): just be calm, cool and say ‘No.’ And then try to leave, because hanging around high people is pretty much just annoying — just like hanging around very drunk people.
Focus on your education
If you find yourself in the situation in which your friends want you to ditch school with them, advise them that your value your education. I am not going to say missing one day of school is going to destroy your chances of get into college, because it won’t. I will say, however, that you should not let your friends interfere with your schoolwork and trying to get the highest grades possible. Real friends want you to succeed and do well, and you have plenty of time to party later. Ask your friends how they are doing in school, show interest in their success and they will do the same. If not, find new friends.
Looks, looks and more looks. High school is definitely the place where your peers will judge every aspect of your physical appearance. Guess what! Everyone has something they are insecure about. Even the prettiest girls and hottest guys feel pressured to be attractive, and they are often made to feel like their looks are the only thing that validate them. No one is confident every single hour of the day. Embrace your body, acne, crooked teeth, frizzy hair. You will become so beautiful the minute you start believing that you are — it will manifest in a confident attitude which people love. Its okay to have off days but always know you are fire.
Be productive and get stuff DONE
Procrastination leads to stress. It forces you to ignore responsibilities. This is something that will haunt you for the rest of your life if you don’t get a handle on it early. I know it would be so much more fun to go play a sport with your friends, play video games, go shopping, binge on Netflix shows — but if you have homework or other responsibilities, just get them done. Study, exercise, or do your chores first and you will enjoy all your activities more after, without all that stress. When you get the stuff that needs to be done out of the way, you will feel accomplished and it will actually raise your self esteem. The more you do, the better you will feel about yourself. Have a planner, set alarms and get responsibilities done first so that when you’re on that millionth episode on Netflix you wont have to think about your homework that still needs to be done.
One topic which continues to rear its ugly head in the news and across social media is teen self-harm, which includes things such as suicide, cutting, intentional alcohol and drug overconsumption, and more.
While bullying is often cited as a cause of the depression which leads to self-harm, the roots can stem from anything from family pressure to relationship troubles to bonafide mental illness.
One organization seeks to combat teen self harm and suicide through awareness and direct counselling. Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services is a Southern California entity which, among other services, operates a teen suicide prevention hotline at 800-TLC-TEEN (852-8336).
Didi Hirsch recently held a fundraiser and award ceremony at the renown Beverly Hilton dubbed the Erasing the Stigma Leadership Awards, where it raised over $450,000 for mental health and substance abuse treatment while also honoring several passionate champions of mental health awareness and suicide prevention.
Here are some of the pictures from the event, and be sure to keep scrolling for an exclusive interview with Lyn Morris, Senior Vice President, Clinical Operations at Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services who explains more about the organization, the awards ceremony, and how teens can help if someone they know if considering self-harm, including suicide.
And now, without any further ado, here is our interview with Lyn Morris, MFT, Senior Vice President, Clinical Operations at Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services who was willing to answer some important questions for us.
Can you please start us off my explaining a little about the Didi Hirsch organization?
Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services provides mental health, substance abuse and suicide prevention services to children and adults who live in communities where stigma or poverty limits access. We have 11 locations in Los Angeles and Orange Counties—including three residential treatment centers–and counselors in nearly 100 schools. Our Suicide Prevention Center is the first in the nation to have a 24/7 hotline and now takes more than 62,000 calls, chats and texts each year.
Can you tell us a little about the Leadership Awards and this year’s honorees?
Didi Hirsch held its first Erasing the Stigma Leadership Awards in 1997, honoring then-Second Lady Tipper Gore for sharing her history of depression. Since then we have honored nearly 50 artists, athletes, authors, activists and others who have helped erase the stigma of mental illness, including Ronda Rousey, Kid Cudi, Natasha Tracy, Michael Angelakos and Ross Szabo. This year’s honorees include:
Mary Lambert (Mental Health Ambassador). She has used her music such as her song, “Secrets,” which features lyrics about her experience living with bipolar disorder, to erase the stigma of mental illness.
NBA New Orleans Pelicans forward Ryan Anderson (Leadership Award). He became an advocate for suicide prevention after losing his girlfriend, Gia Allemond, to suicide.
Former California Sen. Darrell Steinberg (Leadership Award). He authored the Mental Health Services Act of 2004 which has raised more than $13 billion for mental health services in California.
Jordana Steinberg (Leadership Award). She is Darrell’s daughter and a college student who has spoken publically about her experience with a severe childhood mood disorder.
Howie Mandell (Beatrice Stern Media Award) . A judge on “America’s Got Talent,” he has spoken and written about his ongoing struggle with OCD and ADHD.
One of the services offered by Didi Hirsch is the TeenLine. Can you tell us more about that?
We have a partnership with TeenLine, which has “teens helping teens” nightly from 6 pm – 10 pm. That number is 800-TLC-TEEN (852-8336) toll-free in California only. Didi Hirsch’s crisis counselors answers TeenLine during all other hours.
What is the most important thing you think teens should know about mental health?
There is help available and you can get better.
With the NIMH recently withdrawing support for the DSM-5 (the “bible” of mental illness) due to lack of validity, it seems that the definitions for specific diagnoses used by mental health professionals have to be re-evaluated. How do you distinguish actual mental illness from someone just having a rough time dealing with life’s circumstances—which happens to all of us at some point?
Mental illness is mild to severe disturbance in thoughts, mood or behavior that makes it difficult for a person to function. Feeling sad or low from time to time is a normal part of life. But if those feelings persist to the point where a person is not functioning in a normal way, he or she should be evaluated by a mental health professional.
Early warning signs of a mental health problem can include eating or sleeping too much or too little, pulling away from people and usual activities, experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships, having difficulty performing daily tasks or feeling hopeless or helpless.
And for teens who are thinking about self-harm, such as cutting or even suicide: what tips could you give to cope in the meantime when things get bad, and before they can reach some help?
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Our crisis counselors are trained to help teens thinking about self-harm or suicide.
What should I do if I am a teen and one of my friends is acting distraught and suicidal—and they refuse to call a help line? In other words, it’s just me and her/him.
If you or someone you care about is in imminent danger of suicide, call 911. Other tips:
Never agree to keep suicidal thoughts in confidence. Inform an adult family member.
Express your concern . Be empathic and non-judgmental.
Listen. You may be scared, especially if the person is someone who is close to you. However, it is important to listen to how they are feeling without overreacting.
Ask directly about their suicidal thoughts – “Are you thinking of killing yourself?”
Take suicidal thoughts and feelings seriously.
Ask if he/she has developed a plan of suicide.
Remove lethal means of suicide from the person’s home.
Let him/her know that suicidal feelings are temporary, that depression can be treated, and that problems can be solved.
Over time, what do you think are the biggest changes as far as the pressures and problems teenagers are facing these days as opposed to fifteen years ago?
Facebook, Instagram and other forms of social media, which didn’t exist 15 years ago, are exposing teens to additional social pressures at a time in life when they are experimenting with their independence and other issues like drugs and sexuality. Unfortunately, they can be shamed, humiliated and bullied by thousands of people through social media, which puts vulnerable teens in danger and at times has led to suicide.
Drug production to treat mental health issues like ADHD in kids has soared since the 1990s. For anyone who wants treatment for ADHD symptoms, but doesn’t want to risk getting side effects from amphetamines and other stimulants, what do you recommend?
Ask questions, be informed and discuss treatment options with a psychiatrist and therapist in order to determine what treatment is best suited for the child.
Is there anything in particular which gives you hope that we will one day conquer mental illness?
I have hope that one day mental illness will be viewed and treated with the same humanity and dignity as any other medical illness so people feel comfortable reaching out for help earlier which can help reduce the severity and progression of mental illness.