Confidence isn’t something that makes your life perfect or solves all your problems, but it can greatly reduce the extent to which you feel these problems or even see them as problems. It’s also not a feeling that overtakes all at once and sticks with you forever. Being confident on a regular basis is a commitment, and you need to understand these tips in order to make it stick.
Face Your Fears
Our biggest sources of pride are often ones that gave us the most fear. If you’re scared to ask someone out, it’s likely because you like them a lot. As uncomfortable as it can be to confront these fears, it’s not any more uncomfortable than it is to have “what if” dwelling on your mind constantly. Being rejected or not accomplishing what you set out to do can hurt, but it can also teach you to grow in resilience and not take failing so personally. Becoming your best self has less to do with measuring your efforts in terms of success and more to do with seeing how putting forth the effort means you win no matter what.
Self-doubt can be a voice in your head that tries to tell you what you are and aren’t capable of. It can also make you doubt your value as a person. There’s so much about you that makes you special, even the things that might not seem all that special or positive. The fact that you have your own mind and a perspective on the world means you have something to share.
Set Yourself Up to Win
It’s not possible to completely eliminate all chances of failure. If that was the case, we wouldn’t need to teach people to build self-confidence. However, you can do your best to work with what you have. The story of Zach Hodskins shows that when you set yourself up to win, no matter the odds, you’re setting yourself up for success. He was able to play college basketball even without a left arm. Instead of falling into negative mind-traps, think about how you can meet your goals with the cards you’ve been dealt.
The energy from confident people can make you admire them in a way you’ve never felt before. The way they trust themselves so much is inspiring, but it’s also something that could apply to you. All you need is to believe in yourself and accept your flaws as not being indicative of your worth. Confidence wants to be in your life, and you should do your best to open the door for it.