So you’ve never kissed a guy…but you’ve watched kissing scenes on TV and almost every movie and it looks pretty easy.
But remember, those scenes are absolutely rehearsed! Watching someone kiss doesn’t mean you know how. First kisses can be awkward but they don’t have to be.
Follow this wonderful guide to handle your FIRST KISS and make it memorable!
Step 1. Think about what kind of “FIRST” Kiss you want.
What? There’s more than one type?! YES!
There’s wet kisses, dry kisses with chapped lips (no one wants that), mouth open, a little tongue, a lot of tongue, or a nice juicy peck on the lips where you hear the sound of a smack!
You might be thinking, “Well what if I don’t want to plan it?” You don’t have to, but it’s nice to have an achievable fantasy.
Step 2. PRACTICE!
I know this sounds silly, but use your hand and pucker up! I’m not saying hardcore make out with your hand!
You’ve kissed a baby, your parents, and maybe a picture of the guy you want to kiss. It’s the same concept, just slower and sweeter. Practice makes perfect right? Make yourself kissable and moisturized! Speaking of that…
Step 3. Make your lips soft and KISSABLE
No one wants to kiss someone with cracked lips. You want your lips to look KISSABLE. What does that even mean?? It means that you should exfoliate and moisturize with a lip balm – nothing sticky.
Dab some tea tree oil around areas on your lips where you are breaking out. (It will sting!) Do not apply the tea tree oil directly onto your lips, only around it. Dab the oil directly on your pimple(s) around your lips.
To exfoliate your lips, you can purchase a lip scrub from any drug store. I prefer using lips scrubs from Lush. If you want to save money, you can always make your own. There are many lip scrub recipes you can find online. Most scrubs are made of sugar and other sweet ingredients.
Step 4. Have fresh breath!
Brush your teeth beforehand!
If you can’t, have some breath mints or Listerine strips on you. Stay away from foods or drinks that will make your breath smell or make you want to burp. (Avoid coffee, onions, tuna, garlic etc.)
Step 5. COMMUNICATE – use body language!
The man you want to kiss is finally in front of you. Let’s pretend you both are silent and we’ll assume you’re both ready to lock lips. Lean in closely and stare into his eyes. Let me rephrase that: make eye contact!
I giggle whenever I hear someone say “stare deeply into their eyes” because technically you really can’t be looking at both their eyes at the same time! Anyways, look at each other and sense the vibes he’s giving off. Guys give off strong signals, and if it’s their first time, chances are you both are nervous together. At this point, you can drop hints by looking at his lips or smiling. Move closer.
Step 6. Give permission to kiss.
Sure, you can verbally consent you want a kiss, but that’s no fun. Kiss them on the cheek. That’s always really cute and that will make him want to kiss you on the lips even more! Some guys can be really shy and you might just have to initiate it, which is okay!
Step 7. Aim for the lips!
I know that sounds cheesy, but believe me, some people miss. Timing is important too: you don’t want to kiss someone while they are smiling with teeth or have their mouth open! (If you’re lucky, that will make both of you laugh and you’ll want to actually kiss from there.) So here’s what you do, lean in slowly, aim for the lips and try to get his lower lip between yours. Be confident and smooch!
Step 8. Know your limits!
Keep it gentle and sweet. Let the pattern of kissing come out naturally and pace yourselves!
Remember, don’t feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do. Be verbal about things if you have to.
If you have any more kissing tips, comment below!
Kristen Marquez graduated with a B.A. in Cinema & Television Arts from California State, University Northridge with an emphasis in Television Production. She is a social media coordinator by day and a content creator by night. With her great imagination, she knows she will create the next big thing whether it’s a script, a product or a simple idea that will fill people’s hearts with joy and entertainment. She blogs for a hobby and loves spending time with her golden retriever Lily.