t’s easy to get into an argument with your parents. You know exactly what buttons to push, whether the fight is about grades, who you’re dating, or just trying to prove that you are right about something. But after the yelling stops and the doors are shut, the worst part begins: the silence and the bad feelings. The good news is that you can fix it. Read my instructions below to learn how to make things right after a bad argument with your parents.
Step 1 – Don’t Provoke Them Further
The first rule after a fight is to not make it worse. If you are still upset, the best thing to do is walk away. Don’t slam the door, don’t give them a bad attitude, and definitely don’t try to get the last word in. Yelling more, using offensive words, or embarrassing them will only dig you into a deeper hole, and you will regret the things you say when you are angry. Take a few deep breaths and give yourself—and them—some space to relax. The argument can’t be fixed until everyone is calm.
Step 2 – Be Patient & Understanding
Once you’ve cooled down, it’s time to think. It’s hard, but try to be patient and see the situation from their side. Remember, your parents were young once, and now that they are older, they are only looking out for you. Even if you strongly disagree with what they’re saying, you have to accept that sometimes they are right.
Understand where they are coming from and know that they are here to protect you and care for you. Our generation is very different from theirs, so it’s normal to disagree, but there is no need to keep arguing about it. Try to understand their rules and the reasons behind them. Ask yourself if you would want your own future kids arguing with you the same way you just did. This will help you see their point of view.
Step 3 – Learn to Forgive and Apologize
After a fight, someone has to be the first to make things right. Learn to forgive your parents for not letting you go to that party, for forgetting to pack your lunch, or for not buying you those expensive shoes. Life is too short to hold onto anger. No one wants to remember the arguments and the silent treatments. Don’t hold grudges, as this will only hurt you and your parents.
Equally important, you must be willing to apologize for your part in the fight. A sincere apology for yelling or being disrespectful can go a long way in healing the situation.
Step 4 – Earn Back Their Trust
Words are one thing, but your actions are what truly show you want to fix things. The goal here is to do everything they ask of you, and more. You want them to trust you again and know that you are responsible. After a fight, make an extra effort. Do your chores without being asked, get your homework done on time, wash the dishes, and be home when you’re supposed to be. Show them that you are capable of doing your tasks and that the argument was a mistake, not a sign of who you are. A healthy relationship is built on trust.
Step 5 – Communicate with Them Regularly
Often, big arguments happen because of a lack of communication. Once the dust has settled from the fight, make it a goal to talk to your parents more often. You always hear that “communication is key,” and it’s true. Tell them about your day, what you learned in school, or even your crush. Don’t keep secrets; your parents can be your friends, too. When your parents know what’s going on in your life, there are fewer misunderstandings that can lead to arguments. You don’t have to ignore them as soon as you get home from school. They will love to hear about your day, and it will make your relationship stronger.
Your parents love you; remember that you are their baby always and forever. Arguing just leads to stress, and it’s better for everyone to discuss things calmly. By following these steps, you can fix the relationship and avoid making the same mistakes again.